Aussie Dave wrote:Hi Lisa
what metering
mode are you using & how are you using it ?
If you're not using spot metering, this might be something to try out. You can meter off your subject & play around with exposure compensation until you find the right balance....

Dave,
Lisa has a 350, so no spot metering.
Lisa, you're going to need to switch to cedntre weighted metering - can you adjust the size of the central spot? If so, make it as small as possible.
Stage lighting is very difficult, and gig lighting is usually worse. It's also a high contrast situation, with areas of high illumination interspersed with areas of zero illumination, and the problem is that they're all going to be included in your shooting frame.
Decide what your subject is going to be, and set your meter accordingly; use your histogram to confirm exposure.
I can't recall if you have flash exposure compensation on the 350; I know th 300 did not, but I believe that you may have it. If so, try using flash at about -1.5 - -2 stops to help fill in the contrast gaps. At that level, use a shutter speed of around 1/60 and aperture of 5.6 - 8, and you should have a reaonable starting point, and your flash won't be overpowering the stage lighting.